This made me think about how the women in my family have always told to keep your successes within your family. I think this mindset runs in our culture. Similar to the evil eye.
How sharing your wins can make even your closest friends jealous or envious. Then even the people around you start treating you differently. So modesty and generosity turns into a safety mechanism (partially based on superstition).
I notice I use the word 'just' a lot in my everyday narrative. When my kids ask me for something, I'll say 'I'm just eating my dinner' as if I'm not even worthy of that time to myself and that need is something to be minimised.
This whole post was absolutely brilliant. I felt very seen and called out (in the best meaning possible) and you've inspired me to start saying just 'thank you' when my work or anything is recognized. Tomorrow I have an important meeting and will repeat your words like a mantra when I find me making myself smaller. ♥️
This made me think about how the women in my family have always told to keep your successes within your family. I think this mindset runs in our culture. Similar to the evil eye.
How sharing your wins can make even your closest friends jealous or envious. Then even the people around you start treating you differently. So modesty and generosity turns into a safety mechanism (partially based on superstition).
I notice I use the word 'just' a lot in my everyday narrative. When my kids ask me for something, I'll say 'I'm just eating my dinner' as if I'm not even worthy of that time to myself and that need is something to be minimised.
This whole post was absolutely brilliant. I felt very seen and called out (in the best meaning possible) and you've inspired me to start saying just 'thank you' when my work or anything is recognized. Tomorrow I have an important meeting and will repeat your words like a mantra when I find me making myself smaller. ♥️
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